Ordinary Kids Are Afraid Of Special Kids
Special kids won’t hurt anyone unless provoked. They are happy doing their things on their own and only tune in to things that interest them. Its sad that the ordinary kids are afraid of the special kids, like my daughter.
I’ve observed this in numerous occasion I have my daughter with me on children’s party and other events with other kids who are mostly ordinary kids. I guess because they can’t communicate with them and can’t understand them. Its true that people are afraid of things they don’t understand.
So does this mean people are trained to discriminate people who are not like them?
I told a mom friend about this observation I have and she asked how does my child feel when she is being discriminated or when ordinary kids avoid her? Does she not feel inferior after?
I guess special kids like them don’t feel any inferiority complex or maybe they do but it doesn’t manifest.
I would often feel sad for my daughter whenever I see her trying to reach out to other kids and they avoid her or back off. Although signs of insecurity doesn’t manifest on her and I don’t see any sign of insecurity with her I wish some ordinary kids will try to reach out to her and not fear her. After all she is a child put aside her autism.
August 22nd, 2010 at 2:28 am
Worse, some get bullied when they grow up. I’ve had to deal with this in a class where I have a student with autism. I have had to separate him from the bullies whenever he comes to me for consultation. What I liked about the kid, though, is that he really does come to me everyday (even when we didn’t have classes) and had initiative.
I also didn’t quite know how to talk to his dad, who’s with him everywhere. The dad loves him so much but told me that his artworks may be crude, that he will never get married or that he will never learn how to drive. Honestly, though, I told the dad that his son is one of my best students. Then the dad told me that his son likes me very much because he keeps mentioning me and my subject (which many of the other college students fear).
I guess, people discriminate anything they don’t understand. No one’s really normal. But we’ve socially constructed our idea of normalcy and it’s coupled with human nature to discriminate. That’s why there’s so much hatred in the world. I suppose you will just have to be strong in your faith and love for her. Good luck!
September 10th, 2010 at 4:57 pm
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